If you’ve parented your children well, as they reach young adulthood, you should be out of a job. It’s a scary world out there, and it’s hard to see them as adults. Every summer we attend graduations and weddings and my thoughts are always, “They look so young!” If you want your babies to stay Read More
by Maxine Marsolini (our financial and blended families guru!) The decrees of the Lord are firm, and all of them are righteous. They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; …Psalm 19:9b-10a Some things money can’t buy, like knowing Jesus at an early age; that’s a priceless possession. When I look back Read More
Thank you, Pam. Every time I read this piece, I think of something else to add. As someone whose parents divorced when I was 16, I remember that all the adults involved, including my parents’ respective support systems, were consumed with the emotional and logistical needs my parents were dealing with. In retrospect, I completely understand that. However there were two teenage kids whose emotional experiences were pretty much ignored. My “coping” involved gaining about 70 pounds that year and no one had the skill or tools to deal with the anger and depression behind that. (Picking on me for getting fat or trying to micromanage my eating didn’t help.) I think that’s what I meant by “in a perfect world,” having someone willing and able to be there for the kids and help them deal with the emotional backlash. I felt very much alone during that time.
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OK, you’ve worked with your child for years preparing them for college. They’ve done the community service since junior high that looks great on their entrance applications. You’ve sat through every sporting event until you are the official stats keeper, and snack packer. You’ve cringed through advanced Algebra, agonized over assisting them on their SAT’s, Read More
Too often college students reach their second year and choose to drop out. Now what? There are some questions you need to ask yourself. Get brutally honest and take a few forward steps until you find your balance again. Could taking a break help your situation? Sometimes the pressure of studies, new environments, etc. take Read More
BLOGGING 101 INTRO Posted on January 21, 2021 by Pamala J Vincent Got a Blog idea? Got a message to share? Blog with a purpose! Successfully blog your ideas, thoughts, and share your passions. This blog training can have you up and running today! We’ll walk you through, naming, branding for identity, getting your words to shine, and Read More
by Dr. Jane Bluestein Counselors know that when parents set clear boundaries, they take care of their teens and themselves. An earlier version of this article first appeared in the counseling magazine, Adolescence (March 1994), to support the work of counselors and therapists working with parents and families. Talk to the parents of any teenager and Read More
by Dr. Jane Bluestein A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing Read More
by Dr. Jane Bluestein Practical tips for parents and caregivers • Choices, like boundaries, are motivational tools that encourage cooperation through input and empowerment. Offer choices in the absence of desirable child behavior, to encourage your child to perform a particular behavior he or she is not currently demonstrating. • Choices can help you avoid Read More