Beyond Divorce Damage Control

Thank you, Pam. Every time I read this piece, I think of something else to add. As someone whose parents divorced when I was 16, I remember that all the adults involved, including my parents’ respective support systems, were consumed with the emotional and logistical needs my parents were dealing with. In retrospect, I completely understand that. However there were two teenage kids whose emotional experiences were pretty much ignored. My “coping” involved gaining about 70 pounds that year and no one had the skill or tools to deal with the anger and depression behind that. (Picking on me for getting fat or trying to micromanage my eating didn’t help.) I think that’s what I meant by “in a perfect world,” having someone willing and able to be there for the kids and help them deal with the emotional backlash. I felt very much alone during that time.

When your College Student Wants to Drop Out: How will you react?

OK, you’ve worked with your child for years preparing them for college. They’ve done the community service since junior high that looks great on their entrance applications. You’ve sat through every sporting event until you are the official stats keeper, and snack packer. You’ve cringed through advanced Algebra, agonized over assisting them on their SAT’s, Read More

Guidelines for Offering Choices to Your Children

  by Dr. Jane Bluestein Practical tips for parents and caregivers • Choices, like boundaries, are motivational tools that encourage cooperation through input and empowerment. Offer choices in the absence of desirable child behavior, to encourage your child to perform a particular behavior he or she is not currently demonstrating. • Choices can help you avoid Read More